When asked, “What did caring for your wife teach you about the Christian life?”  He answered: “Since I’ve tried to bring my choices under the authority of Scripture, I didn’t struggle about what to do.  I told the students when I resigned as president of Columbia International University, this was one of the easiest decisions I ever made.  But did I learn things?  Yes. For example, as I was taking care of Muriel I said, ‘Honey, you’re the luckiest girl on earth.  You don’t have a worry in the world.  You don’t have anything to plan; everything is provided for you.  You don’t even have any guilt or sin to repent of.’  At any rate, I’d love her, but she couldn’t love me back, and that’s a painful thing.  As I leaned over her one day, I thought, ‘Lord, is that the way it is between you and me?  You pouring out your love and care so consciously, and what do you get back – a brief salute in the morning, we connect, grumbling when I don’t get what I want, when you don’t do it the way I like?’  How sad – sad for Him.’”  

What I’ve found, is that when I help someone who is week, I learn something about my own deficiencies, especially in my relationship with God.  And in reality, by helping the week, I am being helped far more.